Communication with Teens

  • During Adolescence, communication generally decreases.
  • Try to understand the teenager’s feelings.
  • Listen when your teenager speaks to you.
  • Make most of your communication positive.
  • Talk to them about their interests.
  • Talk to them just to talk.
  • Avoid talking too much – giving detailed explanations and repeating lectures.
  • You do not have to agree or disagree – just make them aware that you understand how they feel.
  • Do not overreact to what is said.
  • Do not say “no” too fast.
  • Create situations in which communication can occur.
  • Avoid power struggles, confrontation and arguing matches.
  • Avoid asking too many questions.
  • Use open-ended statements.
  • Give responsibility and show appreciation.
  • Ask for opinions and suggestions.
  • Accept mistakes.
  • Focus in both the process and outcome.
  • Show confidence in their judgement.
  • Have positive expectations.

Sources:

  • Keys to Parenting Your Teenager,┬áDon Fontenelle, Ph.D.
  • Staying Connected to Your Teenagers, Michael Riera
  • Parenting Teenagers, Don Dink Meyer and G. McKay.